Reading Steve Chandler's outstanding book, The Story of You, has got me to thinking about how we often excuse ourselves from living, convinced that circumstances have prevented us from being the people we want to be.
I wrote a bit about this topic here. (The post is called, How Much Wallowing is Cathartic?)
But do yourself a huge favor: Read Chandler's book. I don't agree with everything he says here. But there's a lot of truth to be soaked up from its pages.
By the way, Chandler isn't the author mentioned here. I've never met him.